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7 ways to embrace your uniqueness and boost your
confidence in who God called you to be
Article By Artrina Hall// Lifestyle / Spiritual
Posted February 23, 2017
Photo:  Getty/Blend/ Granger Wootz
God has made you so special. Your beauty is unique. Your style is all your own. And you should
expect love, respect and good things to come your way—because you’re worth it!

Even though you probably have heard all these things before, don’t brush them off as cliché
motivations. You really do need to begin seeing yourself as the beautiful, anointed, gifted woman
God created you to be.

You’re made in the image of God and as my grandma would often say, “Child, God don’t make
no junk!”

You are a masterpiece. And yet, knowing this in your head, without believing it in your heart, only
leads you down a grim path to a lifetime of depression, discouragement, horrible self-esteem
issues and general ungratefulness for all the Lord has placed in you for the good of humanity.

If you want to fortify your inner man against the attacks of a cruel world that will try to knock you
down and kick you while you’re there, Empowering Everyday Women has 7 ways to help you be
more confident.

    1. Get your journal out and write.

    There are likely at least a few unfavorable things you were told about yourself in your
    youth.  They have now grown into weeds of self-doubt, fear, insecurity, low self-esteem
    and depression. Get a pen and a journal, and write out the hurtful lies you heard about
    yourself repeatedly. Once you get them down, cross them out and replace the negativity
    with something positive. Then pray over those things and ask God to help you overcome
    the assault on your confidence.

    2. Meditate on self-esteem-building scriptures.

    “You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you” (Song of Solomon 4:7, ESV).

    That’s one of my favorite self-esteem-building scriptures. What are yours?  If you don’t
    have any in your arsenal, it’s time to change that. Find verses that confirm how loved,
    powerful, valued and awesome you are. Don’t just read the passage, but study the word of
    God, meditate on it, and confess it. Even post affirming scriptures around the house. For
    example, putting a sticky note on the mirror you use when getting dressed, with your
    favorite affirming scripture written on it, is a great idea!

    3. Clear out your circle as needed.

    Get rid of non-essential, unfruitful relationships that do not affirm who you are in God. If
    there are hangers-on in your life who don’t speak positively about you, your dreams and
    capabilities, and always nitpick, and make you feel worse about you, it is time to say
    goodbye. While you will never be able to disassociate from every negative person
    (Sometimes God uses them to toughen your skin and help you grow!), when it is in your
    realm of control and you feel so led, don’t hesitate to cut ties. Some people have no
    purpose at all in your life and are only there to antagonize you.

    4. Change your words.
    This is huge! Don’t curse your own life with what you say. Eliminate words like: stupid;
    failure; ugly; fat; incompetent and other not-so-great words from your list of self-descriptive
    adjectives. Say what God says about you, even if you don’t feel it. Tell yourself: I am
    worthy. I am loved. I am anointed. I am God’s chosen. The more you repeat these things in
    faith, the more your mindset will shift and empower you to bear fruit in your life.

    5. Deal with your history.

    This piggybacks on confidence-building tip #1. Were you unpopular and marginalized in
    grade school? Did you get bullied a lot? Were you most picked on and isolated? Were you
    abused or traumatized in some way? You have to go back and address the past before
    you can appropriately dress for your future. Confront any hurts head-on. Discover where
    the lies that were planted in you originated, so you can get free of them. Uncovering the
    past root helps you understand the present fruit you are producing. Before you can build
    confidence, make sure the foundation is secure, so you are not trying to build on top of a
    toxic waste dump!

    6. Stop the comparison game

    The most confident people don’t waste time comparing themselves to others. The key to
    seeing your own worth is realizing God made you one of a kind. Your beauty is individual.
    Your path isn’t like anyone else’s. Your journey is special. And your progress will go at a
    pace best-suited to you, your maturity level, faith capacity and ability to handle things.  
    Don’t look at your neighbor to see what mold you should fit into, because God doesn’t
    repeat himself. The individual DNA and fingerprints of every living person on earth is proof
    of this! He crafted your unique design for His unique purposes.

    7. Maximize your strengths

    There are some things you can do that no one else can. When you put your special touch
    and flavor on those things, you get awesome results. So learn to maximize your strengths
    in every scenario and you will feel more confident about who you are and what you do.

    Let’s face it, we all have weaknesses and areas we don’t excel in, which doesn’t mean we
    are less than anyone else. We’re just different. Embrace your differences, stay in your
    lane and God will use you to do great things.

Being more confident is really achievable if you focus on the right things and put Empowering
Everyday Women's tips to use.

Here’s to a happier, more confident you!

Are you battling low self-esteem and feeling like confidence is something you don't have and will
never possess? The devil is a liar. Let the Empowering Everyday Women Ministries prayer team
intercede on your behalf.
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